DS, I hadn't given it much thought until I read your comments about the "sex symbols" like Dean Martin, etc. I think Kirk Douglas, though real tough, falls more into that category, and when I think about it, John Wayne is FAR more appealing to me as a woman than the others because he's . . . I'm not sure what it is. Tom Selleck and Harrison Ford fall into a similar category, even if I can't put a word to it. JW, TS, HF - all handsome and sexy if you will, definitely someone I feel could protect, but not so "smooth" and a little rough around the edges. While I enjoy Dean Martin and Kirk Douglas, John Wayne "does it" for me so much more.
And Jay, I TOTALLY agree with you about the kiss in the cemetery in TQM - makes me weak in the knees every time I see it
Mrs. C